The truth is that this message contains a lot of wisdom in our daily existence. The issue is how
we express affection, the affection and love which we have for our family members, our friends,
and all people who mean so much to us. The situation becomes complex because we intuitively
know that others are aware of how much we appreciate them. But the question arises here
whether we have made them know we appreciate them. How often have we demonstrated our
appreciation for people who are important for us? How many times have we said to them how
important they are to us?
The fact is that in our daily life we do the opposite. Many times our communication with
our loved ones is very low, perhaps because we think they know they are important to us. Telling
our loved ones that we love them seems inappropriate. Maybe they know and feel it. Many times
we do not say anything because we think we are busy, we are too young, and someday we will
do it. But the truth is that we have not bought our life. We do not know when we are going to
depart from this physical existence. The tragedy comes when we suffer the loss of a loved one.
From my personal experience I say that we just appreciate things and persons when
we have lost them. That was exactly the experience that I had when I did my Clinical Pastoral
Education (CPE) at the hospital, in San Antonio, Texas. There I accompanied many families who
had lost one of their loved ones. Few families calmly accepted their situation, but most families
were despaired and cried inconsolably. It was a difficult experience providing support in time of
sorrow. At that time, I observed families who maintained a close relationship, and accepted the
loss of a loved one. On the contrary, those who had conflict in their family relationships were
reluctant to accept the loss of their family member. The reality is that the lesson is very clear;
many times we mourn the death of a loved one because the physical separation is difficult, but
sometimes the reality can be another one. We cry because we feel resentment that we did not tell that
family member or friend how important he or she was for us. Or the worst, we cry because we did not
give them the good which we could have provided them with, and we feel resentment.
So my invitation is that you tell your loved ones today that you love them. For example,
tell your mother, father, brother, sister, nephew, niece, cousin, friends, how much they mean
to you in life. Today, fill with joy the hearts of the people you love. Don’t fill with flowers the
graves of the cemeteries, where your loved ones are not able to understand you. In life, brother,
give that flower or call that person who means very much to you.